Are you a pet lover? Have you ever lost a pet that is so special your heart breaks?
If you are a pet lover, you will understand that society is now starting to recognize and understand that our pets are part of our family. In fact, during my years in the pet cremation service, I had an incredibly large number of grieving pet owners tell me loosing their pet was as bad as losing a member of their family.
If someone special in your life looses a very treasured pet you may want to consider giving them a unique and special pet memorial gift, or if you have lost your pet you may want to purchase a memorial gift for yourself.
The Process of Grieving
As mentioned previously we are starting to understand that the loss of a pet is very similar, if not as traumatic, as loosing a family member or friend. When a human leaves this world, we all rally around, give emotional support, have a funeral, attend the wake and then understand that the person is going through a period of grieving. A large number of people actually need this level of emotional support when they loose a pet.
Though most people love their pets dearly, the process to say goodbye can vary considerably from person to person. I have had grieving families ask me to simply get their pet cremated and have the ashes scattered as they are too heartbroken to deal with any other options. On the opposite end of the spectrum I have been asked to attend funerals, wakes and memorials for a number of the pets I have taken care of. In any of these circumstances is it appropriate to give a memorial gift?
Why A Gift To Remember A Pet?
Thinking back over the years about family and friends who have lost their pets, I wish I had given them a gift, to show that I understood what they were going through. I can truly say that this was never really an option, but, thankfully, times have changed.
Many years back, my first cat, China, was at home with my parents, as I had left to find my own feet as you do, and was not able at that stage to take him with me. Sadly he died while I was away, and I have always felt some guilt that I was not by his side. I would have loved to have bought myself a gift to remember him by. Back to the present, and having recently lost another cat, I am considering buying myself a charm bracelet that I can add a charm to for each of my spirit pets. I know some people may feel that this will cause sadness when I look at it, but I believe the charms I will add for each pet will spark happy memories and bring me comfort.
To be able to give someone who has lost their pet a gift from your heart to theirs, is I believe, an incredibly powerful way to show you understand what they are going through and to show your love and support.
How to Choose The Right Remembrance Gift
If you have decided to give a pet memorial gift, or even buy one for yourself, the ideas to choose from can be overwhelming. The next big question is how do I go about doing this?
Most of us will, as you are probably doing right now, jump onto the internet to do a search. You may just be surprised to see what a huge range of pet remembrance gifts are on offer. Probably the first thing to consider is how much you are able to spend, and if the gift needs to be posted, this will only add to the cost, Depending on where you live the postage may be free or not too expensive. There are, of course, free options, you could consider making or putting together yourself. This could include a photo, bunch of flowers from your garden, or a poem or even handmade jewelry or a candle. You only limited by your imagination, ability and time. If the free option is not for you there are fortunately so many gifts in all price ranges to choose from.
You will also need to take into account the person you are buying the gift for. Do they wear jewelry, if not a chain with a small memorial urn, will not be suitable. What is their decorating style, is it ornate, simple, modern or country. These are a few options and you will probably be able to find a gift that fits into a number of different styles.
Taking into consideration the pet that has moved onto the spirit world will also help you buy a gift. If the pet was a large, boisterous dog, a solid looking photo frame with a picture of the dog would work well. However, if the pet was a small, quiet soul, then maybe a remembrance candle, with a lovely poem would be a better option.
Another factor to consider is if you want the gift to last a lifetime, or if it is something, like a candle, that can be used, and will help with the grieving but is hard to keep forever.
Pet Remembrance Gift Ideas
There are so many to choose from that I would never be able to do them justice in the blog. I have however, started, a product review page, and you may want to head over and have a look at it. This is an organic page so it will continue to be updated and added to.
On the smaller and less expensive end of the range of pet gifts, you have options such a jewelry, candles, wind chimes or a hand painted angel. Key chains, Over the Rainbow Bridge bracelets, picture frames in all shapes, sizes, and price ranges. Garden stepping stones is a lovely gift if your friend or family has a garden, and especially if their pet loved being outdoors.
To help a child who is grieving, a book with a story about loosing a pet, or a book that they can keep treasures in, such as photos is a lovely gift.
Another great option as a gift is a book on dealing with grievance, such as “Losing My Best Friend”, by Jeannie Wycherley. Men especially might find it hard to let their emotions out, so a book could be a great remembrance present. You could personalize it by adding a photo, or writing in a memory of the pet.
If your friend or family are having their pet cremated, there is an incredibly large range of urns available, and they may love having an urn given to them as a gift. I, would, however, try to find out what they were intending to do with their pets ashes, and if an urn is something they would like, before buying one. Pet urns come in a range of sizes, colours, materials and designs.
Another very touching and living style tribute is to have a video made for the grieving family. This is easily done on the internet, however, you will need to provide information and photos of the pet, and maybe of the family, depending on how you want the video to look. I will be adding a pet memorial video link and review to my site in the near future. However, if you would like more information on this before I have had a chance to upload this information, leave me a message and I will do everything I can to help you.
I Hope This Has Helped You To Make A Wonderful Choice
I could write another 20 pages or so covering the large range of pet remembrance gift ideas. If you are looking for a gift idea, I hope this blog has helped to spark your imagination and to make the choice easier.
Leave me a comment and let me know if you do end up buying or even making a present for a friend or family.
As always thank you for reading my blog, and I will end with this lovely quote by Linda Blair:-
“It is difficult to understand why people don’t realize that pets are gifts to mankind.”